my mum is amazing.

How’s that for a title? Biased but true. Full stop at the end, I’m literally making a statement. Period.

Obviously just my opinion, but let me tell you why she is amazing. I have seen my mum take care of others my whole life, and I know she’s done that way before I was even born, but for the 26 years that I’ve been here, she has always put other people first. 

I wrote a blog post previously titled ‘still living at home’ and in there I mentioned that I’m still living at home with my parents and my grandma. 

I admire a lot of things about my mum, but one thing I’ve truly grown to love and respect is the way she looks after my grandma, the way she looks after and cares for her mum. She is amazing. 

But at times, I also feel like she could use some help. She has siblings and she shouldn’t have to carry the load by herself. Now, obviously I don’t know everything and I can only go from my perspective and from what I see with my own eyes, but mum does a lot, on top of making sure that her 3 girls and husband are okay as well. 

She spends 30 minutes alone every night fixing my grandma’s medicine, and that’s just her medicine. Then there’s cooking, organising her doctor’s appointments, making sure someone is with her if myself or my parents are not home, washing her clothes, changing her bed sheets, the list goes on and on. She is, and pardon me, but she is f*cking amazing. 

How many times have I said ‘amazing’ so far? Let me know in the comments.

There are times at home when I come out of my room and I go to walk downstairs and the door of my parents room is open and I can see my mum lying on the bed. Sometimes she’s playing a game on her phone while elevating her legs on a pillow or she’s fallen asleep with her phone in her hand (happens to all of us), and a few times she’ll call out for me to come and massage her head because she’s got a headache. I know she is exhausted, but she keeps going. I think that’s where I learned my whole ‘keep going, got to keep it moving’ mindset. I’ve grown up with it and seen it now for almost 27 years.

I have had many conversations with my dad expressing my concern and he always reminds me while it’s easy to focus on what other people aren’t doing, to focus on what I can do to help my mum. When I’m home, I need to step up and help with my grandma so mum can rest. 

I remember one time my grandma was in the hospital and my dad and I went to pick her up. It was cold, it was raining and she was standing outside by herself. None of her siblings were waiting with her, and you know I don’t know what goes on when I’m not there. She could’ve told them that she’s okay and to go home and get some rest, but me thinking about my mum and how much she already does, I thought  it would be nice if someone was waiting with her. 

My mum, man. She deserves the world, and a break.